You've spent your whole life being told you were too much
Too loud. Too intense. Too ambitious.
Too angry. Too sensitive. Too difficult.
Too everything.
So you did what Gen X women do. You made yourself smaller. More professional. More palatable. More manageable.
And it worked - in the sense that people stopped complaining.
But you've been quietly furious about it ever since.
Fuck that. You were never too much. You were just too much for people who needed you small.
That ends here.
Here's what nobody ever told you
You're not stuck because you're lazy. You're not stuck because you lack discipline, or drive, or the right morning routine.
You're stuck because your brain is doing exactly what it was trained to do.
As a Gen X woman, you got very specific messages growing up about how much space you were allowed to take up. Don't be too much. Keep the peace. Be likeable. Make yourself manageable. And your brain - being the extraordinarily efficient organ it is - learned those lessons well.
So well that now, decades later, it's still running the same protective programming. Still hitting the brakes when you try to move forward. Still whispering that you should probably tone it down a bit.
That's not a character flaw. That's neuroscience.
And neuroscience can be worked with.
I'm not interested in helping you survive your conditioning better. I want to help you understand exactly how it got installed - and dismantle it, piece by piece, until the only version of you that's left is the real one.
The loud one. The angry one. The one who was always there underneath all that careful smallness.
That's who we're going to find.
Who I am
I'm Pea. Coach, author, ex-software engineer, heavily tattooed, heavy metal-loving human being. 🤘
I spent nearly 30 years in tech & education doing what I was told. Being professional. Being palatable. Keeping the real me firmly in a box labelled too much. Toeing the line. Biting my tongue.
I was good at it. I was also dying inside.
When I finally left - voluntarily, on my own terms 🖕 - I realised something: everything I'd been told was my problem was actually my power.
The directness. The intensity. The refusal to pretend things are fine when they're not.
All of it. Power.
And you? Same. All of it. Power.
You don't need fixing. You need unleashing.
What I bring
I'm not your average coach, and I mean that practically, not as a marketing line.
I come with a toolkit - neuroscience-backed, battle-tested techniques for dismantling the patterns that have been conditioned into you. Not soft. Not esoteric. Stuff that actually works on real human brains that have been through real human shit.
I come with 20+ years of mentoring and coaching experience, so I not only know how to listen properly to you, I know how to ask just the right challenging questions at the right time to make you think properly about things and to help you to make real breakthroughs.
I come with a systems brain - nearly three decades as a software engineer taught me to look at complex, broken systems and figure out exactly why they're not working. You are not a broken system. But the one you've been living inside? Absolutely is. Let's reverse-engineer your way out of it.
And I come with zero interest in making you more palatable. My job isn't to help you fit in better. It's to help you stop wanting to.
This is for you if:
You're done being grateful for opportunities that were always rightfully yours.
You're done making yourself smaller so other people feel bigger.
You're done waiting for permission that was never coming anyway.
You know what you want. You know who you are. You're just absolutely fucking furious that the world keeps pretending otherwise.
Good. Use it. That fury is data. That fury is fuel.
Ready? Here's how we work together
Unstuck in 90 Days
90 days. Fortnightly video calls. Async voice messages between sessions. Fortnightly email check-ins.
We figure out what's actually in the way. We build a system that fits your brain and your life. We use your anger as rocket fuel instead of letting it eat you alive.
You come out the other side moving. Loudly. Unapologetically. On your own terms.
Not for you? Don’t worry, there are other ways I can help, so let’s talk anyway!
One last thing…
If you've read this and something in your chest went yes, finally, someone said it - That's your signal.
Not your head. Not the voice that says but is this really professional?
Your chest.
The system has had enough of your energy. It's time you had it back.
Let's go. Book your call now.
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Coaching Client 2025
“As a coach, you understood the difficulty I am facing with empathy and came up with lot of solutions. Even, when I was not clear with the problem I am facing, you were keen to get to the root of the problem by framing your questions in a different way which helped me a lot!”